Are You Under their Influence?

Each one of us would have had to put up with at least a dozen negative people who hover around us all along in our lives. 

Negative people, by the way, are the ones, who drain out the energy in us (call them “energy vampires” if you want), and send in a negative energy through their continuous rantings and ravings about all the unpleasant, difficult, unfair people and things that happened in their lives. 

These people not only carry toxicity on their hips, and gossip on their laps wherever they go, but also have the knacky tact (or call it their potential or their USP) of draining a person of one’s energy, even on a minute's shorty talky with them, like in a one-to-one aka tete a tete too.

These 'energy vampires' are capable of producing the boundless negative energy in a jiffy the moment you start conversing with them. 

They always tend to see the darker side, the half empty glass and worry more about the future than live the present. They are people who can never have a good word even for the likes of Mother Teresa or Swami Vivekananda. 

Hence, negative people sometimes have the ability to give you negative energy which can lead you to even depression at times.

The only way in which these people feel powerful is by hurting others in every little way possible, to the extent that they have no idea how negative they have become in life, until they are pulled out of their complacency by some good Samaritan.

Well, you can easily spot them from off a distance! 

Firstly, you can never see a smile on their faces. If at all they smile, it would be a triumphant glee at having succeeded in their gossipy gyrations on a pavapetta, unsuspecting friend.

Secondly, they will never have a good word for even a single human soul on this lovely planet earth! Not even on the flora and the fauna!

When they open their mouths, venom and negative words, spew out with an effortless spontaneity, more powerfully than from off a volcano's!

Thirdly, they are better off at always being critical of others, that they cease being humane!

Fourthly, they would have contributed nothing from off their words, their deeds or from off their wallets to making this world a better place for even one single person on this six billion plus planet! 
Finally, nothing on this planet makes them happy, as much as gossips and venomous words do!

Judy Orloff in her book Positive Energy calls them the following names: “the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, the accuser…” and so on.

Some ways to cope with negative people are -

Try to listen to them, and try to understand why they act the way they do. There may be quite a lot of reasons for people becoming negative in their attitude towards life. 

It may be that, they have monetary insecurity, or may be they were brought up in a packed dingy-like house house all their lives,  sans a nice play area, a lovable garden et al. 

Or probably, both the parents were off to work and there was no one to play with. 

Or, may be that, they had to face abusive parents who were very pessimistic about their wards. 

Or, probably they did not have appreciative people around them to give them the much-need pat and kudos on their back, to egg them on forward!

Low self-esteem coupled with low self-confidence are also added reasons for negativity in people. Because of these reasons, apart from many other similar ones, they are always envious of their extroverted, gregarious, cheerful friends who have such a positive orientation towards life and living!

If it’s a classmate, prove to them that you’re a well-wisher to them, and that you can be a loyal friend to them at all times. Listening to them helps. 

Listening without being influenced by their depressing words is important! 

If it doesn’t work, AVOID their company rightaway, at least for the time-being. It’s better to be positive and alone, than be negative and become a traumatised victim to the taunts of a negative mind!

If it’s a girl/boy friend, give them ample time for themselves to be all alone. Avoid talking to them (in this therapeutic solitude) unless there is a dire need. Give them all the time they need to introspect and to limp back to normalcy. 

To conclude then, (for now), try to talk them to positivity for a brief period of time, and, if you still feel you’re overpowered and exhausted and enervated, ‘delete them’ from your life forever. 

And, remember, the lesser you’re in their company, the lesser are their chances of affecting you. Finally, always have your confidence right in front of you, reminding you that, 

“No one can drain me of my positive energy with their negative vibes and jibes unless and until I volunteer and yield myself to their tantric tantrums”.

AND staying away from such energy vampires, gives you ample-o-ample space for you to try filling up your life with lovely people who have such a joy and exuberance to life and living! Every word that proceeds from their mouths are filled with such delight, such happiness and such positivism! Cos they are the ones who live their lives, every second of their lives to the fullest, drinking life to the lees, helping all and sundry, all the way, all through their days! They will never have any negative words, whatsoever, spewing out from off their mouths in gallons on you! Rather, their words will make you, not break you! Their words would heal you up, not peel you away! Their impact and influence on you will be for your betterment and not your determent! 

With such, may you have company! Wish such may you have your camaraderie! With such may you have your friendship! And with such your fellowship!

For from there, the good Lord commandeth His blessings on you for evermore! 

Life is short! Stay positive! Stay enthusiastic! Impact others with your positivity and your enthusiasm!