Friday, 30 June 2023

‘Did anyone force you to become a Student Leader?’

On “Stress & Wellness” ❤️

Orientation for Newly Elected Student Leaders

30th June 2023, Anderson Hall ❤️

The Orientation Programme for all the newly elected Student Leaders, started sharp at 3 pm in the Anderson Hall, today.

Dr. Rani George, Professor of Criminal Justice, Albany State University, Georgia, USA, began the programme, by asking the Student Leaders to give their opinion on the questions,

‘What does Wellness mean to you?’ and ‘What does ‘Stress’ mean to you?’

Newly elected Student Leaders [who were elected just the previous day], gave some interesting answers.

Dr. Rani then gave a presentation on ‘Stress and Wellness’ for the Student Leaders.

A Few Rewarding Excerpts from her Talk –

‘Did anyone force you to become a Student Leader?’, asked Dr. Rani George.

‘No’ came the reply from the students.

‘Well, then, you must know how to manage ‘stress’ effectively in your life, especially as a Student Leader’, she said, and added -

Stress is a very normal reaction to everyday pressures, but it can become unhealthy when it upsets your day-to-day functioning.

Stress involves changes affecting nearly every system of the body, influencing how people feel and behave.

By causing mind-body changes, stress contributes directly to psychological and physiological disorder and disease and affects mental and physical health, reducing the quality of life.

You’ve got to have a good support system with similar leaders.

For example, I love reading/watching cartoons, comedy movies, laughter is the best medicine, etc.

And when I feel, I’ve got too much of papers to evaluate, then I stop the work and take a walk.

Walking is a good therapy. This apart, sleeping is also a good therapy.

When I was your age, I used to finish up on all my work well ahead of time, and then go to sleep. And yes! I used to sleep for nine hours.

Some may tell you that, if you’re stressed, you should take alcohol. But it’ not at all therapy; neither is it good for your health in any way, 

said Dr. Rani George.

Then Dr. Rani gave some possible, practical solutions to handle stress.

Time Management is a very important step to handling stress.

She outlined quite a few ideas for the Student leaders as follows –

Create To-Do Lists, and enjoy crossing out on completed tasks.

Create a Calendar on your phone and/or Computer helps a lot.

Set Time Limits, and note down carefully all your distractions.

Are phone/whatsapp conversations taking up too much of your time?

When you think there’s too much on your plate, learn to say ‘No’.

On Good Stress-Busters, Dr. Rani George said –

Take a walk.

Do some good exercise.

Eat a balanced diet.

Have sufficient sleep.

Stop using nicotine, alcohol or drugs.

Spend time on Yoga, Tai Chi, Prayer etc.

Reduce triggers of stress.

Set realistic goals.

Practice letting go.

Learn assertiveness.

Don’t take too much on you.

Examine the values you live by.

Then she outlined valuable points on identifying Stress in Peers.

Always be mindful of others’ privacy and do not cross your limits.

Look for signs of stress in your friends/peers.

Are they looking sad, depressed or totally uninterested in life?

Are they ‘more angry’ or snapping at friends often?

Have they lost interest in studies, or losing their concentration, etc.

Recognise their problem, and then refer them to a Counsellor for therapy, if needed, 

signed off, Dr. Rani George.

The Orientation was well-received by the student leaders, numbering 120.

The programme was coordinated by Prof. Sridhar, Vice Principal [Admin], Dr. Jannet Vennila, Vice Principal [SFS], Mrs. Jemimah, Student Counsellor, and Dr. Rufus, Associate Dean of Student Affairs (Aided).

Wednesday, 28 June 2023

"We learn... by making mistakes..." ❤️

A Sprightly Anecdote | Learn from Mistakes

28th June 2001 ❤️

#memoriesfromdiaries ❤️

Prof. P. N’s [P. Natarajan] Classes were highly engaging and rewarding for all of us!

He used to start every class with an anecdote, that helped in drawing our attention to the lecture ahead!

Well, an anecdote could mean a short, amusing or interesting story about a real incident or person!

So it was, that in our Literature Class, on this particular day, he gave us an anecdote on his boyhood days.

Said he - 

Back in our boyhood days, we were able to learn the English language, only after our Sixth Standard.

So we all were quite eager and enthusiastic to learn the language; and my friend was even more enthusiastic!

One day in a petty verbal tussle, my brother gave a beating to my little friend for some reason, and pat shouted back my friend,

என்னை அடிக்கிறதுக்கு you who?” 😊

Would translate to mean,

“To beat me, you who?” 😊  

“This incident still remains fresh in my mind”, said our Professor, and proceeded to add the icing on the cake,

“We learn by making mistakes!”

What a beautiful thought from such a lovely anecdote!

Indeed, we learn by making mistakes, ain’t we?

Reminded of the lovely book recommended by Mrs. Jemimah yesterday, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown.

Yet another book that comes to my mind is, About Average by Andrew Clements. You may want to read more on this book in our past post HERE!

Tuesday, 27 June 2023

It’s very important for the teacher to give out a very supportive message to the student – ‘I’m there for you’

A Surprise Interview with Invaluable Takeaways!

Rendezvous with Mrs. Jemima W

Student Counsellor, MCC

27th June 2023

Well, it was totally an unplanned interview of sorts! 😊

Mrs. Jemima W, the Student Counsellor, paid a visit to the Deanery today to meet with me, in order to discuss an event that’s on the cards.

After having mapped the event, I then suggested to her, that we could meet with our Vice Principal [SFS], Dr. Jannet Vennila, to discuss effective event-related strategies.

Mrs. Jemima gladly agreed.

That’s how we went to our VP’s chamber. Dr. Jannet who is quite well-known for her cordiality and her warm hospitality, soon ordered that much-needed coffee for all of us. 😊

After we had finished on the event discussions, I slowly let out the surprise, saying, ‘Mrs. Jemima, I have a little surprise in store for you. We thought of getting some valuable inputs from you, based on your experience as Student Counsellor all these years’.

Mrs. Jemima was literally, totally caught off-guard, but she quite gladly agreed.

Then started our pleasant interactions over cups of coffee 😊

On an aside, Mrs. Jemima has been a great hit with the students, thanks to her genial spirit, and the warmth she exudes while interacting with students - she has been such a great guide to the student community especially during the post-pandemic times, when, as she puts it, counsellors mostly had to shift from Emotional Focus Therapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to Trauma-focussed Therapy!

Mrs. Jemima’s laudable role in counseling our students especially during the post-pandemic times, is indeed invaluable. Although she has put in her papers, students still have a great penchant for her counsel, her valuable thoughts, and for her comforting words.

What better way, than to interview Mrs. Jemima, and jot down some valuable ideas that emerged from this fruitful discussion-time, for all of us, in the noblest of professions!

So here goes –

Qn: Ma’am, could you tell us about one good and one not-so-good behavioral pattern that you’ve personally observed in today’s students?

Well, students today have tremendous talent and abundant potential within them. If given the right motivation and proper impetus, they are capable of overcoming any kind of challenge, and any kind of clutter that enslaves them.

On one not-so-good aspect, she observed that, students today are not educated on how to handle their freedom in a responsible manner.

Qn: Who do you think plays a vital role in shaping a student for the better?

Although parents come first, I feel that, teachers play a crucial role in bringing about a transformation in the student.

Qn: How would you envisage this ‘crucial role’ for the College teacher, ma’am?

Well, the student expects the teacher to be easily approachable.

I should add to say that, one redeeming quality I find in students today is that, they don’t complain about their teachers anytime, when they come for counselling.

Well, every teacher should double up as a mentor.

In this regard, they should build a therapeutic trust-based relationship with the student.

They should be non-judgmental, and give a supportive ear to the student. Everyone of us has a past! So we should stop judging the student for the little fault that they do!

When we brand a child as ‘fit for nothing’ or ‘useless’, they are not healed in any way. Instead, they tend to carry the hurt and the pain for generations on them.

Love includes discipline. In other words, discipline is a part of love! As teachers and parents we should remember this aspect as well. Trouble crops up, only when we prioritise discipline over love, and vice versa.

While interacting with their teachers, the student should not face a barrier or a middle wall at any point of time!

Again, it’s very important for the teacher to give out a very supportive message to the student – ‘I’m there for you’.

Parents and teachers should educate the child that any kind of addiction is bad. Some have an extreme addiction for watching pornography and gaming. Some others have an addiction for online purchases! Some others are addicted to social media sites for hours together.

The student should be taught in a gentle way, how any kind of addiction is bad for them.

There are students who go through depression, bipolar disorder, etc. Hence teachers should be very cautious while handling such students as well.

Qn: What, in your opinion are the major reasons for a student not being able to give their full potential in their academic life in College?

First and foremost, I would say, Emotional Crisis with cognitive distortions or thought & emotion crisis, that arises mostly from their childhood conditioning / belief systems. School/College is the place where it is manifested in the open.

Secondly, Relationship issues. Students have difficulty in relating with their classmates or teachers. They don’t come for any academic issues. Mostly they blame their parents, for not being there for them. Growing up in dysfunctional families, in toxic environments, they don’t seem to trust anyone.

Some students become rebellious in school/college, because of parental upbringing. One reason why, it is very important to build trust among children in the family. The parents should give a non-judgmental ear to their child, and thereby build trust!

Parenting/bonding is not based on economic or social status.

Thirdly, sexual abuse in the past is one reason for low self-esteem.

Qn: Could you outline a few ways in which students can come out of their stress and peer-pressure?

Outdoor exercises in any form, are very important to give the right frame of mind to the student.

Reading (hard copies of books), is very important as well.

Finally, healthy food is very important.

A warm conversation, or an informal chat in the gutters with bankable friends helps a lot!

The College Library can stack a lot more of self-help books.

As an individual, first and foremost, I should have respect for myself. This would automatically result in respect for others.

Talking behind one’s back, should be avoided at all costs!

In the place where I was taught, it was considered unethical to talk behind a person’s back.

After the student leaves, some teachers start telling stories about them. It would be great, if we could cultivate the habit of not talking anything about a person in their absence!

Gossip, as they say, is akin to slander and even murder, because we murder the person’s very character by indulging in gossip.

It’s imperative for teachers to have logical conversations with their wards. In this regard, integrating neuro-science helps!

A few books that I would advocate are –

The Knight in Rusty Armor by Robert Fisher - story that is a must-read, which is greatly helpful in solving more than 80% of the problems.

Signature Sins: Taming Our Wayward Hearts by Michael Mangis is yet another motivational read.

I would also recommend the book titled, The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships by Michael P. Nichols, as a must-read for teachers and parents.

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown.

There’s nothing like having a good word for a student, appreciating a student, or saying an encouraging word to a student!

This goes a long way in enhancing harmony, wellness and a sense of purpose amongst the young minds, signs off Mrs. Jemima on a highly positive note!

Saturday, 24 June 2023

"All your Professors seated here..." ❤️

Department of English, MCC 

Placed Among the TOP THREE in INDIA ❤️

#IndiaTodayRankings2023 ❤️

The India Today Rankings 2023, have proved a huge fillip and a big boost for the Research Department of English, Madras Christian College.

Yes! It’s celebration time folks!!! 

So happy to share the good news that, we’ve been ranked among the TOP THREE IN INDIA in ENGLISH.

Full credits to all the dynamic and vibrant staff members of our beloved Department, and to our dear students for having made this tremendous feat a reality.

Well, just last week, I had sent a message to our HoD Dr. Mekala Rajan,

‘Ma’am we’re so proud of you. You’re awesome. You’re such a lovely leader, leading by example ma’am!’

Dr. Mekala Rajan

Indeed, her leadership qualities have paid rich dividends for the Department!

Kudos to our dear Head of the Department Dr. Mekala Rajan, whose untiring efforts and commitment have made it possible.

On an aside, the Department of English has been making rapid strides in recent years, thanks to the completely overhauled and upgraded syllabus for the MA English Programme [and subsequently for the BA English Programme].

Faculty members have been burning their midnight oil day in and day out, for many many months, all through the holidays, even up until 12 or 1 into the night, to make sure that our students get only the best out of their Degree Programme!

Meeting of the Board of Studies with our External Subject Experts

As convener of the Syllabus Revision Committee, along with my co-convener Prof.Udhayaraj, I would vouchsafe with all happiness, that our Syllabus is literally unrivalled in its scope and in its ambit!

All thanks to our lovely colleagues who literally pulled off the impossible!

External Subject Experts who were part of the Board of Studies, were all appreciation for our revised Syllabus.

Some of the new papers that we have introduced as part of the revised syllabus have been appreciated by all and sundry for its inclusivity and for its freshness.

A galaxy of our illustrious Professors [Retired] who showed us the path ahead...

Just three days ago, during the orientation for the I BA English class, Dr. Mekala requested all of us – faculty members of our Department - to be there for the Orientation, to welcome the freshers – the I BA English Literature students.

Each of the faculty members shared their thoughts with the students, and exhorted them to stay dynamic!

And the vibrant team...

When Dr. Mekala called me, on my turn, to speak to the freshers, I addressed them, and added saying –

“Dear I BA Class, I would say with all pride and conviction that, all your Professors seated here, are simply the best in the whole of India. They are known for their commitment, their vibrancy, and their dynamism. Make sure that you make all your Professors proud of you!”

Indeed, right from Dr. Mekala Rajan till the junior-most coffee bakhta Prof. John, 😊 every faculty member is dedication and commitment personified!

Something that we eagerly expect from all our lovely students as well!

On this celebratory occasion, we would like to thank our beloved Principal, Dr. P. Wilson, under whose vibrant leadership the College has been achieving great progress in all sectors of academia. He has been the real impetus and the motivation behind all our achievements.

Under his able leadership, and with God’s abundant blessings, we are sure to go from strength to strength in the years to come!

Viva la MCC!

Friday, 23 June 2023

'We can find ourselves as creatures of excellence and intelligence and skill. We can be free! We can learn to fly!'

Born to Fly – Part V

the Fable of Jonathan Livingston Seagull

by Richard Bach

Richard Bach’s sensational and inspirational read titled, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, is high-renowned for its impactful sway through every word and every line of its captivating pages!

Well then, Jonathan Livingston Seagull is a seagull! A seagull who’s quite disillusioned with his daily drudge of a mundane routine quarrelling for food! With a zeal burning bright within him for flying, for soaring higher, he pushes himself to the core, just to learn everything there is to flying!

Because of his refusal to fall victim to the unreasonable and highly insane diktats of his society, he is expelled from his own flock!


Jonathan is now an outcast, all alone! All to himself!

Now, in this solitary-mode, left all to himself, Jonathan continues more passionately on his quest, ardently, and more vigorously, to learn! 

Soon, Jonathan is mightily pleased with his own talents and abilities, that in turn help him to lead such a happy life filled with immense joy and peace!

Now, Jonathan finds out for himself that, his longing, his desire and his inquisitiveness to learn, have made him a ‘one-in-a-million-bird’!

From then on, it’s no stopping Jonathan! Very soon he makes friends with the wisest gull named Chiang! Chiang teaches Jonathan newer, lovelier techniques of flight!

Quite sooner, however, Jonathan decides to return to Earth to tell others of his own society, his own flock, ilk and folk, about the beautiful things he had learnt from above, to lighten others with his love for flight! 

His noble mission soon succeeds well enough, and in no time, Jonathan gathers around himself a flock of other gulls of the same weather, who’d also been outlawed by ‘their flock’ for their refusal to conform!

Therein starts a wonderful transformation! And how!

The rest is for you, dear and gentle reader, to read for yourself!

This is a beautiful little fable of a novella, which you should read a minimum of er…um… a hundred times at least!

Lesser than that would be a kinda injustice to Jonathan and his noble thoughts! ;-)

The Bach-ian descriptions are so arresting! They have that majestic sweep to their tempo and pace, that takes you spontaneously from one line to the next with such elegance!

The very opening page to the novel takes us to Jonathan out there among the clouds, in the deep blue skies, on ‘practice-mode!’ with ‘fierce concentration’!

What a beautiful lesson for us all!

Here goes Jonathan -

Way off alone, out by himself beyond boat and shore, Jonathan Livingston Seagull was practising. A hundred feet in the sky he lowered his webbed feet, lifted his beak, and strained to hold a painful hard twisting curve through his wings. The curve meant that he would fly slowly, and now he slowed until the wind was a whisper in his face, until the ocean stood still beneath him. He narrowed his eyes in fierce concentration… Then his feathers ruffled, he stalled and fell.

Seagulls, as you know, never falter, never stall. To stall in the air is for them disgrace and it is dishonour.

And the next paragraph charts out the difference between Jonathan and the others of his flock!

Most gulls don’t bother to learn more than the simplest facts of flight — how to get from shore to food and back again. For most gulls, it is not flying that matters, but eating. For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight. More than anything else, Jonathan Livingston Seagull loved to fly.


While for the rest, it was a life of drudgery, humdrum existence, to Jonathan, it was something else! He loved to fly!!!

Yes! He loved flying!

Since he felt a voice within him saying again and again, that he was, ‘Born to Fly!’

Even his Mom and Dad are unhappy with his passion and zeal for flying!

“Why, Jon, why?” his mother asked. “Why is it so hard to be like the rest of the flock, Jon? Why can’t you leave low flying to the pelicans, the albatross? Why don’t you eat? Jon, you’re bone and feathers!”

“I don’t mind being bone and feathers, Mum. I just want to know what I can do in the air and what I can’t, that’s all. I just want to know.”

His father being more practical and sagacious in his exhortations to his son! Says the father –

“See here, Jonathan,” said his father, not unkindly. “Winter isn’t far away. Boats will be few, and the surface fish will be swimming deep. If you must study, then study food, and how to get it. This flying business is all very well, but you can’t eat a glide, you know. Don’t you forget that the reason you fly is to eat.”

Jonathan nodded obediently. For the next few days he tried to behave like the other gulls; he really tried, screeching and fighting with the flock around the piers and fishing boats, diving on scraps of fish and bread. But he couldn’t make it work.

It’s all so pointless, he thought, deliberately dropping a hard-won anchovy to a hungry old gull chasing him. I could be spending all this time learning to fly. There’s so much to learn!

Indeed! This last line, this last blessed line, ‘There’s so much to learn’, was his mantra that whispered within his ears, gently, all of the time!

There’s so much to learn, and that’s hence I wish to fly, says Jonathan!

When there’s so much to learn, why pray, should be bogged down in puddles and muddles of your own volition and choosing!

It’s high time you came out quick from all things that bog you down!

And make sure you come out quick from those miry clays of yore, that bog you down! 

Because you are born to fly! And yes! You’ve got so much to learn! Ain’t you dear reader!!!???

Some of the quotes to Jonathan are of the high-octane variety! Giving you a glimpse into a few of them –

How much more there is now to living! Instead of our drab slogging forth and back to the fishing boats, there’s a reason to life! We can lift ourselves out of ignorance, we can find ourselves as creatures of excellence and intelligence and skill. We can be free! We can learn to fly!

This line is too too good! Here goes –

Jonathan Seagull spent the rest of his days alone, but he flew way out beyond the Far Cliffs. His one sorrow was not solitude, it was that other gulls refused to believe the glory of flight that awaited them; they refused to open their eyes and see.

How trueee! Alley! ‘They refused to open their eyes and see!’ Sounds a catchy line to a lovely poem or a book!

[Jo] learned to fly, and was not sorry for the price that he had paid. Jonathan Seagull discovered that boredom and fear and anger are the reasons that a gull’s life is so short, and with these gone from his thought, he lived a long fine life indeed.

To be convinced that you are born to fly, you need friends of the same flock! Who believe in themselves! Who believe in making their burdens lighter! Who believe that if you’ve really gotta fly, you gotta cut down on all things burdensome! Who believe in shunning like a plague getting into all those santhu bondhu groups which double up as rat holes, something akin to a rat entering a burrow, or like a groundhog entering a hedgerow, and once trapped, give that pavapetta thiru thiru look, not knowing how to wriggle out of these miry traps and burrows of their own choosing!

How important it is to have like-minded friends! Who don’t believe in this burrow-system! ;-) 

Here goes Jonathan on the importance of choosing such like-minded friends!

Here were gulls who thought as he thought. For each of them, the most important thing in living was to reach out and touch perfection in that which they most loved to do, and that was to fly. They were magnificent birds, all of them, and they spent hour after hour every day practising flight, testing advanced aeronautics.

“Forget about faith!” Chiang said it time and again. “You didn’t need faith to fly, you needed to understand flying. This is just the same. Now try again ...”

Then one day Jonathan, standing on the shore, closing his eyes, concentrating, all in a flash knew what Chiang had been telling him. “Why, that’s true! I am a perfect, unlimited gull!” He felt a great shock of joy!

“Your whole body, from wingtip to wingtip,” Jonathan would say, other times, “is nothing more than your thought itself, in a form you can see. Break the chains of your thought, and you break the chains of your body, too ...”

By sunrise there were nearly a thousand birds standing outside the circle of students, looking curiously at Maynard. They didn’t care whether they were seen or not, and they listened, trying to understand Jonathan Seagull.

He spoke of very simple things — that it is right for a gull to fly, that freedom is the very nature of his being, that whatever stands against that freedom must be set aside, be it ritual or superstition or limitation in any form.

“Set aside,” came a voice from the multitude, “even if it be the Law of the Flock?”
 “The only true law is that which leads to freedom,” Jonathan said. “There is no other.”

“Why is it,” Jonathan puzzled, “that the hardest thing in the world is to convince a bird that he is free, and that he can prove it for himself if he’d just spend a little time practicing”?
Why should that be so hard?”
Fletcher still blinked from the change of scene. “What did you just do? How did we get here?”
“You did say you wanted to be out of the mob, didn’t you?”
“Yes! But how did you ...”
“Like everything else, Fletcher. Practice.”

And the last line is such sweet motivation for all of us teachers in this noble vocation of imparting sound learning to our kids!

So here goes the noble last line to Jonathan for us all –

And though he tried to look properly severe for his students, Fletcher Seagull suddenly saw them all as they really were, just for a moment, and he more than liked, he loved what it was he saw. No limits, Jonathan? he thought, and he smiled. His race to learn had begun.

And one is sure gonna affirm with elegance, the beauty of the epigraphic lines of Ernest K. Gann, to Jonathan Livingston Seagull!

Here goes -

This book is a new and valuable citizen in that very wondrous world ruled by St. Exupery ... I suspect all of us who visit the worlds of Jonathan Seagull will never want to return.’

He’s said it so true! Who will ever want to return after reading through Jonathan?

It’s much akin to the Keastian world of the Nightingale!

Such is the spell! Of Jonathan, the Seagull!

Quite interestingly, Booker T. Washington’s 1901 autobiography titled, Up from Slavery flits you by, time and again, each time you flip through each and every page of this delightful inspirational!

In fact, Up from Slavery proves one of the best inspirational reads the world has ever read!

Jonathan Livingston Seagull (Jonathan for short) by Richard Bach is an equally inspiring read! But instead of a human being, there’s a seagull!

Again, chances are, you might also get a tinge of Tolstoy’s Kholstomer gently breezing you by, when you are way way into Jonathan!

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